So you met this person, you finally think he’s the one you’ve been looking for, the one who’s right for you. You’ve changed the way you think about love and relationships, you’ve been going out your comfort zone and doing anything to prove it to this man.
and yet, it’s not enough. He makes you feel you could always do a little more. Or he brings up some of your past experiences and use them against you. He doesn’t trust you, and THAT only leads to trying harder, proving your love is different, true, and strong.
and before you know it, all of the good energies you put into it, the same energies turn into bad vibes and drain you.
Is he the bad guy? Or is it something else?
When I realized that I was trying to prove that I was the right one for him, that I wanted to be THAT person who could change everything, that’s when everything changed.
When we get hurt, we tend to “beg” for love. And not because we are weak, but because we wanna prove ourselves that we deserve it. We are willing to GIVE more than we get back, because the act of giving can fill the empty space someone else left inside of us.
so what happens is that we kind of take the missing love out on the next relationship.
I don’t agree when people say that we tend to “idealize the new guy”. I believe the new guy has nothing to do with how we feel. we idealize love. Not the love we think we deserve, but the love we never get. Like we are trying to make a past wrong love, RIGHT. over and over again. we keep giving THAT one love a chance, expecting to heal with someone else. We need to stop dragging hurtful experiences along with us and try to fix what’s been broken. You’re not the broken piece, you’re not the super glue. Wash your face, wear long lashes, do your dance and give your heart a break baby. Life starts today.
Please take some time to answer these questions:
HOW WOULD YOU LOVE IF YOU NEVER GOT HURT?
WHAT WOULD CHANGE IF YOU WOULD GIVE YOURSELF ALL THE LOVE AND ATTENTION YOU’RE GIVING HIM?
WHAT STARTS WITH “Y” AND ENDS WITH “OU” ? ( THAT is the only love you will ever need)
you are a woman. don’t let anybody take this power away from you